I’m Back to Posting

by Peter on 23. Feb, 2010 in My Views

I know I have let a lot of people down in my posting or lack there of but I am back.  My work schedule has decreased and I recently got a new keyboard so its sort of a motivating factor!  Anyways, I don’t know if Adrian has said anything but I am typically a lot busier than her with my job so its a bit harder for me to consistently post.  But, I promised her that I would make a better effort at it since she feels its very helpful for people to hear tips and what not from people like us that have made it work.

I finally got a chance to read a lot of Adrian’s posts…Yeh, I know I am a bad boyfriend for not reading her blog. LOL.  But, anyways, I really had no idea some of the hurtful things people have said to her.  She does not usually share that sort of stuff with me just because it does not bother her very much and she just lets stuff like that roll of her back.  But, as her boyfriend, I definitely do not appreciate some of those things.  A lot of them are downright borderline threats.  You would think such a community that is engaged in innocent things like diapers and babyish type ideals that these types of things would not occur.

A lot of the things posted about her through her blog and on the various boards are honestly laughable and some of these people really should learn to just calm down.  The accusations are so absurd and far-fetched that I honestly can’t help but laugh at them for entertainment.  Gosh, if some of them only knew LOL.  I won’t address a lot of the accusations and what not because I am not going to bring up some of the silly things a few select people say but I am sure they know who they are.

Anyways, I hope to provide a good perspective from a guy’s point of view that wears diapers 24/7 and also suffers from incontinence.  I will try to post daily as Adrian seems to be trying to do.  If there is anything particular people want addressed just let me know!

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Keeping Up With a Blog

by Peter on 17. Jun, 2009 in Experiences

So, I am determined to keep up with my blog better.  Yes, I went out of town for a couple days but I did have my laptop and I could have easily posted.  Adrian has been getting on me about keeping up with it and I did promise her.  But, I do want to keep up with the blog personally – I guess I just got got to get better at writing on the blog and coming up with ideas.  Adrian comes up with great ideas all the time (she secretly steals mine lol) to write on her blog but I seem to draw blanks.

I figured I would tell a story of something that happened on my trip just recently.  So, I went to the mountains to go camping with some friends and they know I wear diapers and all that.  But, let me tell you – camping in the summer time is no fun especially when it is like 85 degrees at night.  I would much rather camp in the winter when you are not sweating at night.  Anyways, so we went hiking and we were heading back when it was just getting dark.  All of a sudden a freaking snake fell, yeh FELL, from a tree right on top of my shoe.  I absolutely freaked my sh*t because everyone knows I hate snakes but for it to fall right on me basically with no warning I was caught so offguard.  But, my friends did have a little fun with me saying things like “Welp, looks like a diaper change for Peter when we get back” and “Do I smell something?”.  Of course, implying that I pooped in my diaper I got scared so bad.  I have known these guys for forever so they don’t care about the whole diaper and incontinence thing and we just sort of have fun with it.  They know not to cross certain lines but I am a very open person and jokes like that never bother me, especially between us.  Overall, it was a great camping trip except for the lack of sleep…alcohol was our medication for sleep though ;-)

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Changing A Poopy Adult Diaper for Beginners

by Peter on 01. Jun, 2009 in Poopy Diapers

I would have to say by now that I am a professional messy diaper changer.  I have probably changed a thousand of Adrian’s messy diapers.  It is pretty second nature now.  I have changed them everywhere from a comfortable bed to the backseat of a car.  I figured I would give a few of my “wise” knowledge to the masses when it comes to changing a messy diaper.

First, if you are new to or just beginning to change messy diapers then I would highly suggest making a note to yourself to at first just try and either clip your nose or hold your breath at certain points during the change.  The last thing your partner wants is for you to gag and throw up on them.  For beginners – make it a slow process to getting use to the smell of a poopy diaper before just going all out.  There is nothing wrong with trying to become accustomed to the smell – it is just part of the learning process.

Second, make sure before you begin to have everything laid out and within reach so that you can do the deed as quickly and efficiently as possible.  Some people might like if you go slow but at least for the beginners, they just want to get it over quickly and get through it so they know they can do it.  Until you get use to it where you are comfortable going at a slower pace without throwing up or gagging or something like that – the quicker the better until you both are use to it.

Third, make sure you are talking to the person being changed as it helps get your mind off the changing and makes both of you more comfortable, especially at first.  Talking will get your mind off the mess in front of you as well as help the person being changed not feel so self-conscious.  So, that is a big tip that I tell people to try.

Fourth, make sure you have larger wipes and not baby wipes.  Pampers Swipers are perfect for this or adult wipes would do the job.  These wipes will help clean up messes easier and quicker.  I highly suggest them over baby wipes for adults.

Lastly, try to have fun with it.  Making it a chore or inconvenience makes it no fun for you and no fun for the person being changed.  Why make it incomfortable and not fun.  It should be something you and your partner or whomever share together and not just some waste of time action.

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The Diaper Crinkle

by Peter on 22. May, 2009 in My Views

I don’t know if Adrian has touched on this but I want to talk about what I think is probably one of the most attractive features of a diaper to me.  The crinkle of a diaper has to be one of the best sounds in the world.  There is nothing better then putting on a diaper getting up and walking around only to hear that beautiful sound of “crinkle, crinkle”.  It’s such a great sound and it is so unique.  I don’t really know how to explain why the crinkle of a diaper is so great but I am sure many people would agree with me.

Possibly, it has to do with the babyish aspect of wearing diapers in general.  But, I think it also is a sub-conscious thing that you are unique and most everyone around you is not wearing a diaper and you are.  It almost makes you feel special, at least to me it does, and I feel like I stand out and am unique in my own way.  I take a lot of pride honestly in that I wear diapers as I know that I have overcome incontinence in my life by managing it with diapers but also diapers I feel have provided me with so many avenues ranging from a comforting and secure feeling all the way to being able to meet new friends and contribute to the ABDL community.  Plus, incontinence and diapers led me to my amazing girlfriend, Adrian.  Sometimes, you just have to embrace what life throws at you and make the best of it.  If you do that then most times you will find the positive in what looked like a negative and it could be for the best.

Most people would look at incontinence and wearing diapers as a negative.  But, I say, something as simple as the crinkle of a diaper when I am wearing it provides me with a comforting and relaxing feeling in my mind and body that allows me to not only focus better but also concentrate.  Not including all the benefits that diapers can allow, the crinkle alone (something so small) can provide such a major impact in my life.  It’s true that the small things in life are the most precious because without that crinkle of a diaper then a diaper just wouldn’t be well…a diaper.  Yes, it performs the same function but imagine a diaper that made an aluminum foil noise instead…I would hate that and it would be annoying.  I say step back and look at the positives in wearing diapers and not so much what others think because something as simple as the crinkle of a diaper may be providing you with so many positives that you may not even realize.  Think about it :-)

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Diapers in USA vs Other Countries

by Peter on 18. May, 2009 in My Views

I was asked the question of whether I thought there was more of a stigma about diapers in the US compared to other countries.  I would definitely have to agree that there is a certain stigma of adult diapers in America more so then in other countries.  Generally European countries have always been more accepting and more “free” in their thinking.  Not as many things bother them.  The US I think is pretty uptight about certain things and stubborn at that.  While, I do agree with Adrian in that I do not think many people care in America necessarily care that you are wearing a diaper.

I think an important point to keep in my mind is that everything is relative.  My experience is that I have rarely encountered anyone that cares that I wear diapers.  I have been to multiple doctors and none of them seemed to care…of course they asked about it and I explained the whole incontinence ordeal but after that there really wasn’t anything more to it.  But, I am sure some people have been to certain doctors and got a strange look – but honestly, I am a firm believer in that a lot of it comes off in how you act.  If you act like its not a big deal then it won’t be most likely.  But, if you come off nervous or like you are doing something wrong then of course a doctor could probably pick up on that and a lot of people could for the most part and might think more of it.

But, definitely I think in Europe and other countries, diapers are a not as big of a deal as it is in the US.  I think the US is just in general more uptight.  Other countries I think have a less uptight attitude and things are generally more accepted.  But, this is just my experiences and perspective.  Adult diapers I think are not a big deal to a lot of people.  Obviously, if you don’t come across as some nervous and scared person or flaunt it around then I don’t think many people care too much.  But, generally my opinion is Europe and other countries are a lot more accepting in regards to the whole diaper thing then the US.  Unfortunate, but true.  That is not to say people in the US need to be scared of others finding out – just use common sense on what you are doing and who you are doing it around.

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First Post of New Blog

by Peter on 16. May, 2009 in Incontinence

My first post of my new blog.  How exciting.  I first would like to welcome everyone to my new blog and expect great things to come from it and hopefully helpful tidbits as well.  If you are wondering who I am and about me then just go to my About Me page and you can find out a little about my background.

So, I figured I would make my first post on incontinence support groups since that is how Adrian and I first met in Florida.  Incontinence support groups I thought were pretty popular until I moved to NC where I have not seen any actually.  There were several in Florida at the time that were pretty informal.  They were in a comfortable setting – not like an alcohol anonymous support group or anything but it was just a bunch of people that went to dinner or did things together.  Of course, there was talk among everyone about the managing of incontinence and what not but people were not about to sit in a circle and discuss their problems in such an uncomfortable manner.  The informal environment really lended itself to making new friends and communicating.  There were probably 6 people in the incontinence support group where I met Adrian.  Most of them ranged from low 20’s to early 30’s in age.  There were the outliers of a few older people but it was a younger crowd which I liked personally.

Many people did actually manage their incontinence through the use of adult diapers.  This surprised me when I went to my first one as I thought I was one of the only one’s who did it that way.  Obviously, some people use catheters but I absolutely HATED those and will never use those things.  Diapers are so much easier, secure, and more comfortable in my mind.  As well as the idea of a catheter just seems so ‘raw’ to me – I don’t know.  Diapers were much easier and comfortable for me so I have always used them and most people in the support group agreed.  There were of course some people in the groups that would never put a diaper on but its just a preference thing.

It is honestly really easy to start a incontinence support group up.  Obviously, if you were to then you should NOT expect to turn it into some ABDL/diaper convention meeting but more of a way to just meet others that suffer from the same issue and maybe manage it the same way using diapers…then, in that case you might possibly make a diaper friend.  But, more importantly at least you are helping people by starting a support group where they can come and discuss their issues and who knows…it could grow bigger and attract more people which would definitely bring some of the ABDL’s, diaper users, etc out of the woodwork for you to meet.  Not everyone is up for this idea but I am sure there are some people that could feed off this idea and might try to put it into effect.  Just a suggestion :-)

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